So often I get asked about invitations. What is acceptable? What isn't? I also see many mistakes made in this very important part of the wedding planning process! To avoid any misunderstandings or unexpected headaches I'm going to outline some simple rules for creating your perfect wedding invitations.
Before you decide what verbiage you would like to use, sit down with your fiancé to discuss how formal you would like to be. Some couples opt for very formal and traditional wording like this:
Mr. and Mrs. Edwards
Request the Pleasure of Your Company
at the Marriage of Their Daughter
Jessica Anne Edwards
John James Johnson
Saturday the Seventh of June
Two Thousand and Fifteen
Two O'Clock in the Afternoon
The Gathering Place
826 Mountain Place
Reception, Dinner and Dancing to Follow
This wording is about as formal as you can get. Some couples (and their parents) prefer this.
It is also perfectly ok to go ahead with something much much less formal! You can use a simple greeting or phrase such as "Jessica and John Are Getting Married!" or "Join Jessica and John as They Celebrate Their Marriage" or "Join Us With Our Families as We Join Hands In Marriage." The possibilities are endless and it really is up to you. Select what you're most comfortable with.
Content really is the most important piece of this pie. Invitation suites provide an avenue for nicely relaying all of your information without cluttering the actual invitation. On the main body of the invitation make sure to include the couple's names, where the event is taking place and be very clear about what time the event begins. Other details to add to the suite are attire, directions to the venue (include both ceremony and reception if they are happening in different places) and give a general idea of activities for the evening. This helps people plan on important factors like driving or taking a cab, wearing appropriate shoes and dressing for the weather. If you have decided on a location that may be outside of a reasonable driving distance to guests, or you know you'll have visitors from out of town, be sure to include options for accommodations in the area and include any room block information if it applies.
On a side note, it is considered faux pas to include your registry on your wedding invitations. If you are going to register be sure to put this information on your wedding website or on the Save-the-Dates when they go out in the mail.
When addressing your invitations it is best to hand write each envelope and also hand write your return address. I realize this is a very long process but it's a bit more personal and meaningful this way! If you would like you can have a professional calligrapher do this for you. I also recommend that you spell out each name and all words in the address. Traditionally the return address is put on the back envelope flap, but I think either the front or back is just fine. It is also customary and polite to include an addressed return envelope with postage. The easier you can make it for guests to RSVP, the better.
With Google and the Internet there are thousands of options for wedding invitations. My favorite larger vendors are Minted and The Wedding Paper Divas. They have everything you could ever want or need and they've made the process seamless and easy. I do also highly recommend using a local specialty shop if you have the means, or a local graphic designer. They will have relationships for printing and all of the other finer details you'll need in order to receive your invitation suite!
Lastly, have fun with your invitations and make sure they are reflective of you as a couple and also your event! If you're having a large and elegant soiree or a smaller laid back celebration you'll want your invites to be indicative of how you plan to celebrate.
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